Why we give up on our bigger goals

When we are working on our goal, we want our effort to bring results. We want to feel that our work matters and when we do not get results, we tend to give up on our goals and do something easier.

Sometimes progressing on something isn’t easy, even if you are working hard. For some goals, it might take months or even years to see any results. In this case progress, you can make in a single day is tiny, almost none.

How frequently you will progress depends on how big your goal is. For example if your goal is learning to ride a bike, you would progress within hours. Possibly drive independently at the end of your first day of trying. But if your goal is to lose weight, you can’t see a progress on day one. You won’t even see it after a week. Working out and getting fit takes time, it’s unrealistic to expect daily results.

When you see someone every day, you wouldn’t notice if he hasn’t cut his hair for a couple of months. Because the progress of growing hair is slow. You can’t see a result of the hair growing in a day to day basis. He looks the same to you every day. We can’t see something that progresses slowly, we can only notice it if we look back for a greater period of time. When he cuts his hair you will notice it immediately.

That is why going after bigger goals is hard. We need to feel a progress. Without progress, we lose our motivation. When you’ve worked hard, it is frustrating if there is nothing to show for it. You feel like you haven’t got any closer to your goal. But you have. There may be no results at the moment, but if you don’t give up they will come. Just keep putting in hours.

To help yourself achieve bigger goals you have two choices. You can clench your teeth, be disciplined about it and just do your work, every day, rain or shine. Or you can break down your larger goal into small fractions. This helps you to get motivation and feel the progress after completing each of them.

The importance of focus.

We forget things, that’s human. Even the stuff that’s important to you at the time will be forgotten after some time. You need to acknowledge this fact and work around it.

Every minute, there are plenty of distractions that takes away our attention. It’s hard to keep yourself focused, but a focus is the key to any achievement. If you want to achieve your goal, you must first master yourself to keep focused on your goal. All the time. You are what you focus on.

If you want to remind yourself of your goal, you first must define it for yourself. As clearly as you can. Write it on paper. Update and read it every day. Write it on a poster and put it where you can see it and re-read. Otherwise, you will forget it, believe me, you will.

Once you’ve done that, and the next day comes, you just need to worry about doing your work for the day, without doubting if you need to do it. Not thinking about why it matters, because you remind it to yourself daily. You will have a clear explanation.

So whatever is your goal, figure out how big it is. Maybe you can break it down into smaller ones. Have an understanding that you need to progress to keep going. And if you sometimes feel like giving up, it is because of your lack of it. Don’t give up because of that, just understand the reason and keep on working.


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